Since being engaged, we've been reading a few very helpful books on marriage, doing life together, and how to live, interact, and love your spouse. We've said all along that while we are planning a wedding for September, we want the planning of our marriage to be more important! I thought I'd share some of our favorite books with you here.
Meaning of Marriage / For Women Only / For Men Only / Unveiled Wife / 31 Prayers for My Husband (there's also 31 Prayers for My Wife) / The 5 Love Languages / The Mingling of Souls
We aren't married so we have nothing figured out yet, but a lot of these books have been really helpful to us in preparing for what marriage might look like. Some of these we haven't read quite yet, but are hoping to soon. I'm currently reading the Meaning of Marriage and I really love it. The author explains the background of marriage, gender roles, how relationships have changed over the years, how humans are becoming more selfish and less grace-giving, and what the Bible has to say about the meaning of marriage. It's been a great read so far-- albeit, long!
We also have both read the For Men and For Women Only books. We heard the authors speak at our church once and immediately bought our own copies of the book. They suggested having the man read "For Women Only" first and having the woman read "For Men Only" first. Since For Women Only is actually for women, about men, the man can read it first and underline / highlight what sticks out and is true about him in the book (and vice versa!) Then when you swap and read the book meant for you, you'll be able to see the places your spouse underlined, be sure to note those sections as being really important to them. This has been so eye-opening for us! I'm learning things about men in general and specifically about McCann that I didn't know before reading these books.
The Five Love Languages is such a good read for anyone, whether you've been married for a week, a year or 25 years. The author helps you understand what ways you respond best to love and in turn, feel the most loved. I learned in this book that you usually love others in the way you best like to receive love, but that it's actually really important to pay attention to others' love language and love them in the way they want to receive it. This has been influential in my friendships, too!
I hope this short list of books is helpful to anyone getting married or has been married for a while, but is interested in some good reads. Here's to making our marriages more meaningful than our wedding day!
Please share any books YOU have loved and found helpful! I'm all ears.